Public Opinion

When we first started trying to get pregnant only one of my sister-in-laws knew. We wanted it to be a surprise when we told everyone we were pregnant. After being married for a couple of years people start asking "When are you going to have kids?" We'd brush it off and say "Oh someday." We didn't want to tell people we were having problems getting pregnant. But as we started going to the doctor we began telling our family and friends. We figured the more people praying for us the better our chances of getting pregnant.
We are at the age where all our friends and sibling are having kids. Sometimes people are afraid to tell us their good news because they don't want to hurt us. But we are happy for them! What an exciting time for them. Just because we can't have biological children doesn't mean we don't want others too. True, sometimes I get sad or jealous, but it is a personal thing and nothing against the expectant parents.
There was a time when I would get so angry and hurt when random people would ask "Why don't you have kids. You should be having kids," or my favorite "Maybe you should stop doing so much playing and have kids." Seriously, why do people say things to people whom they know nothing about. Unfortunately people are always going to make thoughtless comments. Daniel and I have now accepted that and instead of getting angry we just tell them "Well thanks, but we can't have kids." It is actually kind of funny to see them realize they've said something rude or unthoughtful and try to back pedal. It is also hard when you can tell that people don't think that you are trying hard enough to have kids, or when they give you advise on how to get pregnant - yeah, because they've ever had to deal with infertility.
I have to remind myself that it doesn't matter what people say or think. We all have different trials in life. It would do us all good to remember to "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."